Have you read this book? It's by Voddie Baucham Jr. I'm only in chapter 2 and thus far, I love it.
Voddie and his wife homeschool their children, they have a quiverful-mindset, and from what I've heard about him and this book, well, it lines up with a lot of our families convictions.
It's really great to see this book and these topics being discussed in more "main-stream" Christianity. Sure, you hear about homeschooling and about being "quiverful" in more extreme, conservative Christian groups (so they are labeled by mainstream Christianity), but this is a wonderful, more well-known pastor - standing up for families, for children, for GOD and His Word. It's awesome!!
I have some quiverful blogs coming (once we get a bit more settled in around here). Kim, over at Life in a Shoe, talked recently about being quiverful. She got quite the mixed reactions, with many harsh, even mean comments from people who use birth control and think it's perfectly fine and acceptable to limit your family size (apparently for any ol' selfish reason). Really? I just don't see this line of thinking at ALL in the Bible.
I think you have to have some seriously grave issues going on (think death or the imminent threat of) in order to be limiting your family size. If you are going to let God control your life, truly give it over to Him, how can you be holding onto this one area? Do you think you really know better than God how good of a mother you are? Or how many children you can "handle"? Or how much money you will make (or need) next year? Really? You know better than God? Interesting....
One other thing she mentioned (Kim, Life in a Shoe) was this idea among many Christian today of "you do your thing, I'll do mine, God just calls us all to different things". Ummm, okay. Yes, this decision is ultimately between a man, his wife and God. But that doesn't mean TRUTH changes. There *is* a right and a wrong answer here. How many times does God call children a blessing? How many times is barreness referred to as a curse? Why would I IMPOSE a curse on my own body? Why would I hide myself from a blessing? How much more obvious can you get??
Last note, yes, there are "exceptions" per se. Yes, some women will DIE if they have just one more child. But in reality, this is not the case with most women out there using birth control. Eventually, my dh and I will have to face a tough decision in this area (most likely). I have had 4 c-sections. While things look great "in there" so far, who knows what the future holds (oh, that's right, my God does!)? We may face a time when a doc tells me it's unsafe to have more children. What shall I do?
More importantly, where is my heart? How do I view children, view families? Society has infiltrated the church most decidely in this area. Now it is simply "the norm" to have 2 or 3 kids, then take control out of God's hands and "be smart" about it. Even in Christian circles, many have never really considered anything else. It's just *what everyone does*. How can that be so wrong?
Oh, I don't know......maybe when we stopped looking to God for our answers and instead began looking to the experts, the "world" and our own selfish hearts. Ouch.
Again, FAMILY DRIVEN FAITH. I'll keep you updated on how the book reading is going.
And just promise me you'll give this topic some thought. So many Christian couples never even really think about this, they stay in their own comfortable little box of well-known and acceptable. Break out, I say, and see how God can bless you!