My son is about 20 months old. He has a hitting problem.
He does not have many words at this point. He does often have a binkie in his mouth, and I realise this contributes to the problem. We usually take the binkie away at about 2 years of age, but I'm thinking of limiting his binkie use to just the car and bed now, so as to help this situation.
I guessing here that due to his lack of words, he is frustrated at his communication skills. When he is frustrated he hits me. Yes, usually me. I'm am amazed that when I see him frustrated, even with another family member, he will run over to ME and hit me! As of late, he has been more free with his hitting and is also free with hitting his father. How nice of him to spread the hitting, eh?
I have been simply using a firm voice, telling him no, while I grab his hand and stop the hitting. He will often lean down and kiss my hand, as if to tell me he's sorry. At first I thought it was adorable, yet the hitting continues, so I'm beginning to think he's just trying to placate me with the "kisses".
So have you had a hitting child? Was it due to frustration? What worked for you? Please let me know I'm not destined to have a violent child in the future (I'm thinking not, but at times it is hard to deal with)?
Praying you all have a great day~