I have been checking out some of the google or other searches that lead strangers to my blog. By far, the number one search is for the term "quiverful". That really surprises me!
I can think of *many* other blogs that I would consider more "officially" QF than we are. First of all, we have c-sections. No homebirths, no natural births, etc. Second of all, we fully admit that if our OB tells us we have reached a point where it would be very dangerous to get pregnant again, we would seek out other options. We're not exactly sure what that means, as I would *never* take hormonal birth control (not with my family history of breast cancer, not that ANYONE should take hormonal birth control willy-nilly....scary stuff, imho), but we would not put me or the baby at great risk to maintain that "pure" qf-philosophy.
Thirdly, my dh is a Children's/Family Pastor. Many quiverful families home church or attend a family integrated church. We're talking NO segregated activities. I fully support all of these differences between us and the "normal" qf family - that's just not how our family has worked out, not our circumstances.
PLUS, when I talk with completely strangers, not from our church - most have never even *heard* of the term "quiverful". Yet here I have many, MANY people visiting my blog searching out "quiverful" for whatever reason. Strange.
So if you are here searching around for information on being Quiverful, please understand that not all qf families look alike. Especially not us. We love the Lord, and we want to hand over ALL aspects of our lives to Him. That doesn't mean the same thing to everyone though, so try not to make broad assumptions just by reading here or any other blog for that matter. We are all human, we all sin - yet most of us really love the Lord and are striving to live for HIM, allowing HIS light to shine through us, muddled as it may appear through our human lives.
If you want to know what quiverful means to OUR family, by all means, check out this blog. We honestly believe the main aspect of the quiverful livestyle is how we view life, babies, children, family. Children are a blessing - I know EVERYONE is going to say this, but not everyone really lives this. I can't *tell* you how many Christians, loving Christians, simply miss the boat on this one. I have been told NUMEROUS times how they could NEVER have 5 babies! How they simply can't "deal" with the 1 or 2 kids that already have. How much babies "cost them" and "how in the world can we afford all these kids?".
And it's *certainly* not about "have as many babies as you can possible pop out". No way! It's about realizing and accepting that children are INDEED a blessing and that the Lord is in control of our lives. Not all quiverful familes have 12 kids - I doubt we will. Yet we really do view children as an amazing blessing, and not just the one or two WE decide to have, but ALL the children the Lord wants to bless us with. How can I look at ANY of my beautiful babies and think of one of them NOT being here, simply because I wanted things to be a little easier, because I wanted some "time off" from diapers for awhile, or because money was a bit (or very) tight?? Yet I know MANY parents who look back and think of those babies they denied from God with great sadness and regret.
And no, it's not a salvation issue. It's not about legalism, not about "good" Christians vs. "bad" Christians. Nope. I honestly believe our society has influenced even the church into viewing children as a burden. I think it's all tied into birth control, feminism, decline of godly morals in society, etc. That's not all of it, that's not a pat, simple answer - but I do believe it's part of it. Birth control may be helpful in some situations. Birth control may be helpful for non-believers who have no other reason to remain abstinent. Yet for believers, it is a slippery slope. Useful and benefitial to some - sure. Are their extreme situations? You bet! But the slippery slope is definitely there.
Ok, enough. I just found the whole idea of people coming HERE for info on being QF quite interesting. And I bet I'm a bit emotional due to being 23 weeks preggo - so go easy on me if you feel I was attacking you. I don't mean to, not at all. And by all means, let me know how you feel, what you believe, how you got here and what you may be looking for. We may not agree, but that's okay, we don't have to.
God bless you, my friends ~ enjoy this cold, beautiful day!!