Here is a family tree. The trunk represents a patriarch. Each branch, a child, grand-child, great grand-child. Each twig is another blessing. It's an amazing work of art, on many different levels.
Now, imagine someone coming along and pruning this tree. Just a bit, mind you. How about, let's say, only FOUR children per family. I mean, four children, that's still a large family by today's standards, right?! Ok, let's see:
Wow. I personally was shocked by this pruning the most. I mean, four children in each family....I didn't expect that much of a change. Goodness.
And now, down to TWO children per family. Many people today only have two. For some, yes, medical reasons are involved. Physical, emotional, mental. Yet I would guess most are not "forced" into limiting their offspring to simply TWO. This is a choice. Here's what happens to your family tree at that point:
Of course, the goal is not "Who has the biggest tree?". The point is, we - as a society - have changed our priorities, what we value. Many couples have chosen an easier life (usually with more money) and LESS children ~ instead of MORE children and less *money*. It's easy to see which we view as more desirable.
So, the point is not to make you feel bad about a choice you & your husband have made - what is the point in that?! I'm not going to judge another family based on their family size - I don't know them, their situation, their struggles, their walk with Christ. The point is I hope people take the time to THINK about this subject. I never really gave this a second thought until a few years ago (PTL for those who spoke with me, who were an example for me). Children as a blessing was not a concept I grew up learning about. People stop after 2 kids because....well....that's what everyone does. That's normal, acceptable, smart. Right?!
Yet what do we value? What type of legacy do you want when you are old & gray & wise? If you could only have 1 or 2 children, that doesn't mean your tree is "doomed" - you can still impact how those children view children - how your grandchildren view families & children.
The point is, it DOES make a difference. It *is* a choice, and it does have consequences. Don't just quickly gloss over the decision to have or not have another child. I pray my family tree is HUGE ~ not so I can boast about it's many branches, but so I can have the chance to impact many souls for Him. So future generations will know how important family is to Him. So many will come to know Him!!
*Ok, yes....it's also so I can snuggle up with the cutest grand-babies & great grand-babies EVER ~ of course!!